I am currently getting my masters in counseling, and in the future I want to work as a marriage/couples therapist. I’ll graduate in about 2 years.
I also work as a cocktail waitress at a nice restaurant…sometimes customers ask me about myself, and a lot of times the men laugh when i tell them I want to be a marriage therapist, and say things like “There’s no way my wife would let someone like YOU be our therapist, it would make the problem worse! hahah.”…I think meaning that since i am an attractive female, married women won’t want me to be their counselor. Do you think this is true??? Or is that ridiculous? Men and women, please both respond with what you would think.
Here’s a link to a picture of me…be honest with what you think. No big deal, problems, etc. (Obviously I won’t be wearing anything low-cut or inappropriate when seeing clients! Keep that in mind).
http://i68.photobucket.com/albums/i7/kujayhawk3eb/02_01_8.jpg
http://i68.photobucket.com/albums/i7/kujayhawk3eb/Nov10256.jpg
I know not only ugly people can be therapists, but i realize that a lot of marital problems will deal with issues of infidelity and insecurity, and I just wonder if being attractive could make things worse.
OK WHOA Clcalifornia…this catty-ness is exactly what i am talking about. I think what i am asking is a legit question. It’s ridiculous that a person can’t acknowledge the fact that they are attractive and ask a serious question about it without being called self-centered.
I am not caught up in my looks because i am asking this question. It would have never occured to me, had no one said anything. Just because someone is attractive, this means they “can’t see beyond the mirror”? Wow.
About my job: I work at a nice steakhouse, not a bar…i just take the tables in the bar section of the restaurant. I make a lot of money in only 2 shifts a week, its the only way i can afford school. FYI.
WHAT??? I am too 23, born in 1983, graduated hs in 2001, college in 2005! what the hell!
